Without Positions or Titles, Who Are You?
Growing up as an only child, I was raised with very high expectations. I always knew I was supposed to go college, get a good job, and make a name for myself. I ran my life as it were a living resume. I was always seeking what position or title would make me feel more worthy. What I didn’t know then is that all of these positions and titles did not necessarily equal happiness. While I am appreciative of my access to higher education, excellent job opportunities, and the various leadership positions I have held, I realize now that I was always seeking more because I was not fully confident in who I was.
Prior to this past year, I never gave myself the time to reflect upon my accomplishments. I would meet one goal and immediately ask myself, what’s next? I never felt complete. In fact, I always felt the need to perform better, be better, and never fail. What I have come to realize is that there is so much power in failure and learning from your “mistakes”. I prided myself on all of my accolades and believed that the busier I was, the more people would value me and that happier I would become. Guess what? I was wrong.
I used to allow my worth to be determined by what others thought of me. It is like I was addicted to leadership and to an extent, the “fame” that came along with it. I wanted to be known as the President, the CEO, and the captain, while holding back tears because deep down, I felt so incomplete. The irony is that as successful as I was, I never felt like I was good enough until I went through my awakening.
Through my period of transformation, I learned that I am in fact a leader, but one that leads with empathy and a drive to help others find their purpose and happiness in life. I don’t care about titles and positions as much because at the end of the day those don’t necessarily define the core of your being. However, many of us live the majority of lives feeling the need to be validated by others. We let others determine our value because we don’t know our true selves, and when I realized that I had been living most of my life this way, I crumbled and asked myself, who are you?
To be honest, I did not fully know. As I shed what no longer served me and learned about myself at the core of my being I came to realize that I am a spiritual being placed on this earth to help heal the collective. I am a spiritual healer, a product of the universe, an empath, a transformational leader, a social justice advocate, and so much more. What I am not however, is someone that allows for my value to be determined by someone else and their expectations of what I should do with my life. I choose to live with purpose and while I am connected to the positions and titles I hold, I also recognize that there is a unique spiritual being behind them.
So next time someone asks you without titles or positions, who are you, what will you say? Have you thought about who you truly are? If you haven’t I highly encourage you think about your passion and purpose in life and reclaim your power. You above all, deserve your love and affection and part of that starts with exploring yourself on a deeper level.